1) Accept the problem
You have to be at peace with a problem, WHILST it is in existence, for the solution to come to you. i.e. you have to accept yourself where you are, no matter what - you cannot solve any problem without first accepting it, and yourself. We spend so much of our time trying to deny what has happened or deny a part of ourselves, pushing it away, which only leads to more of the problem appearing in your life. Very often simply fully accepting the part of you that is creating the problem will be enough to have it disappear, as it is so used to being pushed away/rejected. Part of you is trying to send you a message; maybe it’s time you listened.
2) You cannot attract to you, that to which you are not already connected
So be an appreciator. One of the fastest ways to attract what you want towards you is learning to appreciate the good in whatever situation it is life is presenting you with. Being an appreciator is so important because it is the closest energetic vibrational match to source and therefore the creation of what it is that you want. Therefore the more you operate at that frequency, the closer to source you are, and the faster things will manifest for you in the physical world. It is not important to verbalize your appreciation but simply to offer it. Appreciation is the antidote to some of the lowest forms of energy and emotions we are capable of e.g. shame, resentment, etc. By offering thanks and assuming that you already have what you seek, you immediately begin to attract more of it towards you, whether you have any of it or not.
3) Happiness is not pleasure
The experience of pleasure is a right now, in-the-moment, sensory-rich, and sights, sounds, and feelings experience in your person. Happiness is your meta-experience when thinking about something that brings you such pleasure. Happiness cannot be experienced by the senses directly, only pleasure can. Focus your life on having more now-moment pleasure experiences, rather than accumulating reasons or things to be happy about.
4) Stay connected to source
Find your own personal way to stay connected to your higher consciousness (the feeling you). For many this is meditation, music, song, etc. Why are we so attracted to parks? water? nature? wildlife and animals? We have awareness on some level that we are part of a much greater collected consciousness, something else, something higher than us. Some people may be partially disconnected from it, but you can never fully disconnect from it. Notice that the word emotion is e + motion. Notice that the concepts are so connected even on a linguistic level. Did you know that elephants are one of the very few creatures other than humans who cry tears of emotion? And when was the last time you saw an elephant running? They have adapted or have been given an ability to release emotions from tears in the same way humans do. People are attracted to source because we recognize that’s where we want to be, we want to have those feelings, we want to experience that energy, because the energy, just by being in its presence, makes us feel better about ourselves.
5) Live in the moment
We only have access to our full personal power in the present moment. This is practicing the art; it’s a habit to be developed, a life-skill. The extent, to which you are connecting, on some unconscious level, either into the past or into the future, is the extent to which you rob yourself of your present power. You are not going to be experiencing what it is that you want; therefore you are moving your emotional point of attraction, into negative territory. Being in the present moment is the only way you can make an emotional connection to what it is that you want, and therefore begin the process of it becoming attracted to you in future present moments. This type of emotional alignment cannot be achieved when your thoughts are in the future or past. “But how much do I need to be in the present moment? I have all this stuff to do…..” You must be in the present moment enough to have enough fully-loaded, pleasurable, positive full body feelings, about what you want to attract in your life, in order to begin the process of its automatic attraction to you. Living with your thoughts at a future or past moment in time, is entirely redundant in the process of being free of stress, and attracting what you want into your life.
6) You can never be enough to
You can never be sorry enough to change this problem situation. It is only when you love yourself that you have that love to radiate to others. It is only when you are allowing the abundance to flow to you, that you then have the ability to gift it to others. Giving your energy – in any form – to others, whether it is love, forgiveness, agreement, or any energy, when your cup is not already brimming over, is the fastest route to the emotional poorhouse. If you want to help others, you must first help yourself. Others easily see through empty gestures, compliments, or favors; and, such gestures only hide you from your own emotional impoverishment/malnutrition. They are not useful, and serve no purpose in enhancing your life or others’.
7) Be selfish enough to line up with your intentions
This is important because it is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer others. If your own energy tank is not full, you have no business looking after the tanks of others. It is important to limit your own responsibilities to prevent emotions like lack of self-worth etc. Remain present and in attendance to your own needs first and you will always give others your best, automatically.
8) You are not your accomplishments
Understand that you are not your accomplishments, what you do, what you don’t do, your beliefs, your ideas, your stuff or possessions, those are nothing to do with who you really are, they are the baggage you have picked up along the way, they are nothing to do with the spiritual you who wants to feel good; and stay connected to Peace. Lose your ego, and take this attitude of freedom with you in your everyday life.
9) The journey is the destination
Many times our internal dialogue says “If only I had x, then I would be happy, or, “I’ll be happy when I’ve got…” As you go into the world and experience the contrast of your likes .vs. your dislikes, through your everyday experiences, so a new want is born. Then comes the striving (and usually struggle) in the journey towards its manifestation, which contains all the stresses and strains you wish to rid yourself of. Understand this: you’ll never get it done. Because the journey itself towards your wants shows you new elements of contrast, new possibilities, new likes and dislikes, etc that change and alter your path. Thus your job here is not to get caught up in the end result but to ensure you enjoy the journey along the way, regardless of your goal, and ensure that your everyday journey contains all the same underlying experiences, emotions, and full-body feelings that you seek from your end goal, anyway. The journey is the destination. So enjoy it.
Bringing it all together
So how do we overcome the various stress blocks to pull greater peace and abundance towards us? EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is one way to release the emotional blocks of shoulds, musts, ought-to, anger, fear, resentment, and so on. Once the biggest unconscious blocks have been resolved, your intentions, ambitions, passion will feel that much free-er to move towards you, automatically and effortlessly. Circumstances and people appear in your life from nowhere and events begin aligning themselves, as the universe conspires with you, to realize your passion.
Have a confident and positive day,
JD
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Are You Stressed Out?
Stress, America’s #1 health problem, is a leading cause of major illness. Heart disease, high blood pressure, and depression are just some of the harmful effects of stress. Research has shown that releasing stress and learning how to relax promotes a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life.
Take this quiz and see how you rate on your stress level!
1. I make time for myself every day.
2. I have a tendency to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. I say “no” without feeling guilty.
4. I get impatient quickly with delays or changes.
5. While waiting for the elevator, I press the button more than once.
6. I am able to relax and unwind easily at the end of the day.
7. I laugh everyday.
8. I feel guilty when I just do nothing.
9. I feel “beaten up” sometimes at the end of the day.
10. I get disappointed in others often.
11. I have a hard time falling asleep at night.
12. I often forget to wear my watch.
RESULTS:
If you answered YES to these questions.
1. Yes. You are creating an environment where you can release stress and stay in balance. Keep up the good work!
2. Yes. You are doing too much, and are spreading yourself too thin. It would be a good idea to stay responsible for your work load, and revaluate why you are willing to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. Yes. If you can say no and be okay with that; you are doing much better than most. By saying no, and not feeling guilty, you are setting your boundaries. You are also eliminating added stress. Kudos for you!
4. Yes. Becoming impatient and irritable quickly is a big sign that you are feeling a large amount of stress. When you are under stress, you react more rapidly than if you were relaxed. Take note of this, and observe how you react the next time you are faced with an unexpected setback or change.
5. Yes. If you push the elevator button more than once, chances are you are a type-A personality. You could have a tendency to live you life in a rushed and stressful way. Slow down…remember pushing the button more than once isn’t going to make the elevator go any faster. You have to learn to let go and chill.
6. Yes. If you can relax and unwind at the end of the day, you are dealing with stress management in a great way. Being able to relax is a sign that you are not bringing your work home with you, and you are putting your priorities in order. This is GREAT!
7. Yes. Laughter is one the best ways to release stress, and staying in balance. Finding laugher in the day is an excellent stress buster!
8. Yes. Feeling guilty when you are doing nothing is an indicator that you are living a lifestyle that is rushed, hurried, and stressful. Break yourself of that habit fast, and make it a priority to do nothing, and feel good about it. Your health depends on it!
9. Yes. Feeling “beaten up” at the end of the day means you are working way too hard. You can lighten up your work load, delegate your work, or get better organized to eliminate that feeling of heaviness.
10. Yes. When you are easily disappointed in others this means that you are expecting too much from the wrong people. You are living in stress! Chances are you are doing too much for others too. Set your boundaries, and choose who you trust wisely.
11. Yes. Insomnia is a side effect of stress, Your mind is racing because it is conditioned to be working 24/7. It’s time to learn how to relax, set your boundaries, and keep your life in balance.
12. Yes. If you can get through the day without your watch, you have conquered the need to control your time. You can manage your time well.
If you answered NO to these questions:
1. No. You are in a rut where you are feeling stressed, and will soon be burned out. Make it a priority to take time out for yourself even if it is only 10 minutes a day.
2. No. You are not taking more responsibility than you should. This is great! Keep up the good work. You know your boundaries.
3. No. Saying no means setting your boundaries and enforcing them. This eliminates added stress. Start practicing saying no and sticking to it. Your self respect depends on it!
4. No. Not reacting to sudden chances and setbacks are a sign of good stress management. Problem solving and solutions are a much better choice!
5. No. If you press the elevator button only once, chances are you have learned to be patient, and can manage your stress well. Excellent!
6. No. If you are having difficulties relaxing and unwinding, you are living a stressful life. It is time to learn how to relax and let go. You must find a balance in your life, or else you will be on the road to “burn out.”
7. No. Laughter is the best medicine for everything. If you aren’t finding enough humor and laughter in your life, then you are out of balance. Make it a priority to find things that bring you joy on a regular basis.
8. No. Doing nothing is a great stress buster. If you can just do nothing and enjoy it, you have mastered the stress demons.
9. No. If you don’t have that “beaten up” feeling at the end of your day this is great! You have learned how to successful manage your stress, and not hold it internally. Excellent!
10. No. This is another sign of excellent stress management skills. You are accurately seeing other people’s strengths and weaknesses, and perceiving that appropriately.
11. No. Being able to relax and fall asleep at night is another good stress management skill. You seem to keep your stress under control. Kudos!
12. No. If you are “lost” without your watch, this could be a sign of a controlling personality. It might do you good to forget your watch on the weekends, and just be a free spirit once in a while.
If you are stress out, get some relief now!
How to use laughter to reduce stress
At the risk of sounding cliched I am going to remind you of the most common adage, 'laughter is the best medicine.' You can choose to laugh your blues away, laugh your troubles right out of the window and laugh your problems into oblivion. It not only sounds fantastic, also it is quite true. How you handle stress and find ways to reduce stress is in your hands; it's all about your attitude towards life.
When you are down and troubled, stressed out, anxious or worried about something it may be hard to imagine laughing at such times. However, if you can, you should try it at least once and you will soon realize how good it can make you feel. Laughter helps to reduce stress is a scientific fact and has been proven through research. The body is made up of stress hormones, which includes epinephrine or adrenaline, cortisol, dopamine and the growth hormones. When you laugh the stress hormones are reduced and the 'feel good' endorphins are released.
You can always watch a funny movie or television program, read a funny story or even go online and read some jokes. Try to get out of your feeling of despair; it will only increase your stress. You should instead try to get involved in what your spouse or child is doing - children are a constant source of amusement and time spent with a child can help reduce stress levels quite dramatically.
There are several stress related benefits from laughter, they include:
Laughter helps to increase antibody producing cells; this in turn improves the effectiveness of the T cells in the body. Enhanced T cells mean a stronger immune system and lesser physical stress effects.
Imagine a good hearty laugh, a laugh that comes from deep within - it works out the diaphragm, and it is a great workout for your shoulders as well as your abs. The feeling you experience after a hearty laugh is one of relaxation. Laughter is very good for your heart - it keeps it ticking happily!
Laughter is an excellent form of release both physically and emotionally. You will experience a sense of lightness after a good laugh. You will also find it very hard to go back to being stressed out.
Laughter can be a very good form of distraction; it will divert emotions away from stress and anxiousness. Negative feelings and guilty feelings tend to get reduced and this in turn helps to reduce the stress you feel.
Humor often lends a lighter perspective to the problems of life. Someone once mentioned that how we view challenges in life is similar to viewing a cup with liquid filled in it - it being either half empty, a negative point of view or half full, a very positive attitude. At least you have a half full cup rather than a fully empty one!
Laughter helps us to connect with people on a social level; it can be contagious and fun. Also, company of good people can also help to share our burdens. It is important to stay in the company of positive people, they will help elevate your mood and reduce stress. When we mingle with the right group of friends we get encouragement, right advice and lessening of our stress load. All of which are good stress reducers.
Jay Kulak is an expert on stress and anxiety. He offers a free newsletter you can subscribe to that will help you manage stress and anxiety at http://www.stressanxietyrelease.com
Five ways to stay calm and reduce stress
Want to have a calmer, more satisfying experience with your daily life?
Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?
Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.
Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings here are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings so that you will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each day.
1.Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior that you don't like and change it.
At first you may not notice the feeling until after you have gone through it, that's fine.
Think about how you would rather have felt.
Think about how you would rather have handled yourself. Decide how you want to do it next time.
As you continue with this process each day you will find that you will notice more easily what you are doing throughout the day.
You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you do this.
Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing it, then stop yourself.
At some point you will be able to notice before you even begin to feel and react in the undesirable way.
Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you react to the situations in your life and change your behavior.
2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.
Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as the day goes on.
Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to get re-centered.
Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths while imagining the tension washing slowly out of your body.
Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.
Just think about your breath.
Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.
It's ok to not be actively thinking for a while!
3. Watch out for your expectations.
You are setting yourself up for failure, being upset and frustrated when you set too many standards as to how you think things should be.
Think about what leads you to getting upset?
Why does it set you off?
Notice that you decide how things should be, based on your own outlook and desire.
The things others do that are not to your liking, even the things you do that don't match your expectations.
Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be exactly that way?
Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?
Does it matter that much?
Is it worth getting myself worked up about?
Choose which expectations are really important for you to hold on to and which ones are not.
Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life, with constant judgment.
Simplify your life and reduce the stress!
4.Delegate.
This applies to your personal life as well as at work.
Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it can apply personally as well.
We are all very busy these days with our activities and duties.
Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to tension.
For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit of thinking we must do it all ourselves.
Take a look at your situation.
Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must be done perfectly to your standards?
Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you. Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?
Many times we get into habitual ruts that don't need to be as they are.
Look at what has been, with the eye of reducing the pressure on yourself.
5.Accept other people as they are.
When you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that separates you from others.
This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior to others which leads to judgment then selfish thinking and behavior.
We are then having an internal battle with others, which brings on fear, competition and comparison, ending in frustration and anxiety.
Learn to see yourself as one with all of mankind, not as separate.
Focus on what we have in common rather that the relatively small uniqueness.
Do you get frustrated with yourself at the end of the day because you've gotten stressed, unfocused or agitated?
Are you tired of getting over emotional and worn out.
Whether you are experiencing one or all of these feelings here are my 5 best tips on reducing the unwanted feelings so that you will feel calm and satisfied with yourself each day.
1.Catch yourself when you exhibit a feeling of behavior that you don't like and change it.
At first you may not notice the feeling until after you have gone through it, that's fine.
Think about how you would rather have felt.
Think about how you would rather have handled yourself. Decide how you want to do it next time.
As you continue with this process each day you will find that you will notice more easily what you are doing throughout the day.
You will begin to catch yourself earlier and earlier as you do this.
Eventually, you will be seeing yourself while you are doing it, then stop yourself.
At some point you will be able to notice before you even begin to feel and react in the undesirable way.
Here is where you will actually begin to change the way you react to the situations in your life and change your behavior.
2. Stay centered all day by refocusing throughout the day.
Develop the habit of paying attention to your mindset as the day goes on.
Several times a day, step away from what you are doing to get re-centered.
Sit down close your eyes and take several long slow deep breaths while imagining the tension washing slowly out of your body.
Notice your breathing getting slower and calmer.
Just think about your breath.
Try to keep from thinking about anything in particular.
It's ok to not be actively thinking for a while!
3. Watch out for your expectations.
You are setting yourself up for failure, being upset and frustrated when you set too many standards as to how you think things should be.
Think about what leads you to getting upset?
Why does it set you off?
Notice that you decide how things should be, based on your own outlook and desire.
The things others do that are not to your liking, even the things you do that don't match your expectations.
Ask yourself, really how important is it that they be exactly that way?
Ask, who am I to insist that they are that way?
Does it matter that much?
Is it worth getting myself worked up about?
Choose which expectations are really important for you to hold on to and which ones are not.
Holding on to many expectations just complicates your life, with constant judgment.
Simplify your life and reduce the stress!
4.Delegate.
This applies to your personal life as well as at work.
Most of us think of delegating as a workplace skill, but it can apply personally as well.
We are all very busy these days with our activities and duties.
Trying to fit it all in and get it all accomplished can lead to tension.
For various reasons, many of us have developed the habit of thinking we must do it all ourselves.
Take a look at your situation.
Think about it, really, how important is it that everything must be done perfectly to your standards?
Are you sure there are not other people who can assist you. Are the other people in your life pulling their weight?
Many times we get into habitual ruts that don't need to be as they are.
Look at what has been, with the eye of reducing the pressure on yourself.
5.Accept other people as they are.
When you think of yourself as different and separate from the rest of mankind, you unknowingly create thinking and behavior that separates you from others.
This kind of separate thinking leads us to think we are superior to others which leads to judgment then selfish thinking and behavior.
We are then having an internal battle with others, which brings on fear, competition and comparison, ending in frustration and anxiety.
Learn to see yourself as one with all of mankind, not as separate.
Focus on what we have in common rather that the relatively small uniqueness.
Are you stressed out? Take this quizz!
Stress, America’s #1 health problem, is a leading cause of major illness. Heart disease, high blood pressure, and depression are just some of the harmful effects of stress. Research has shown that releasing stress and learning how to relax promotes a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life
.
Take this quiz and see how you rate on your stress level!
1. I make time for myself every day.
2. I have a tendency to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. I say “no” without feeling guilty.
4. I get impatient quickly with delays or changes.
5. While waiting for the elevator, I press the button more than once.
6. I am able to relax and unwind easily at the end of the day.
7. I laugh everyday.
8. I feel guilty when I just do nothing.
9. I feel “beaten up” sometimes at the end of the day.
10. I get disappointed in others often.
11. I have a hard time falling asleep at night.
12. I often forget to wear my watch.
RESULTS:
If you answered YES to these questions.
1. Yes. You are creating an environment where you can release stress and stay in balance. Keep up the good work!
2. Yes. You are doing too much, and are spreading yourself too thin. It would be a good idea to stay responsible for your work load, and revaluate why you are willing to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. Yes. If you can say no and be okay with that; you are doing much better than most. By saying no, and not feeling guilty, you are setting your boundaries. You are also eliminating added stress. Kudos for you!
4. Yes. Becoming impatient and irritable quickly is a big sign that you are feeling a large amount of stress. When you are under stress, you react more rapidly than if you were relaxed. Take note of this, and observe how you react the next time you are faced with an unexpected setback or change.
5. Yes. If you push the elevator button more than once, chances are you are a type-A personality. You could have a tendency to live you life in a rushed and stressful way. Slow down…remember pushing the button more than once isn’t going to make the elevator go any faster. You have to learn to let go and chill.
6. Yes. If you can relax and unwind at the end of the day, you are dealing with stress management in a great way. Being able to relax is a sign that you are not bringing your work home with you, and you are putting your priorities in order. This is GREAT!
7. Yes. Laughter is one the best ways to release stress, and staying in balance. Finding laugher in the day is an excellent stress buster!
8. Yes. Feeling guilty when you are doing nothing is an indicator that you are living a lifestyle that is rushed, hurried, and stressful. Break yourself of that habit fast, and make it a priority to do nothing, and feel good about it. Your health depends on it!
9. Yes. Feeling “beaten up” at the end of the day means you are working way too hard. You can lighten up your work load, delegate your work, or get better organized to eliminate that feeling of heaviness.
10. Yes. When you are easily disappointed in others this means that you are expecting too much from the wrong people. You are living in stress! Chances are you are doing too much for others too. Set your boundaries, and choose who you trust wisely.
11. Yes. Insomnia is a side effect of stress, Your mind is racing because it is conditioned to be working 24/7. It’s time to learn how to relax, set your boundaries, and keep your life in balance.
12. Yes. If you can get through the day without your watch, you have conquered the need to control your time. You can manage your time well.
If you answered NO to these questions:
1. No. You are in a rut where you are feeling stressed, and will soon be burned out. Make it a priority to take time out for yourself even if it is only 10 minutes a day.
2. No. You are not taking more responsibility than you should. This is great! Keep up the good work. You know your boundaries.
3. No. Saying no means setting your boundaries and enforcing them. This eliminates added stress. Start practicing saying no and sticking to it. Your self respect depends on it!
4. No. Not reacting to sudden chances and setbacks are a sign of good stress management. Problem solving and solutions are a much better choice!
5. No. If you press the elevator button only once, chances are you have learned to be patient, and can manage your stress well. Excellent!
6. No. If you are having difficulties relaxing and unwinding, you are living a stressful life. It is time to learn how to relax and let go. You must find a balance in your life, or else you will be on the road to “burn out.”
7. No. Laughter is the best medicine for everything. If you aren’t finding enough humor and laughter in your life, then you are out of balance. Make it a priority to find things that bring you joy on a regular basis.
8. No. Doing nothing is a great stress buster. If you can just do nothing and enjoy it, you have mastered the stress demons.
9. No. If you don’t have that “beaten up” feeling at the end of your day this is great! You have learned how to successful manage your stress, and not hold it internally. Excellent!
10. No. This is another sign of excellent stress management skills. You are accurately seeing other people’s strengths and weaknesses, and perceiving that appropriately.
11. No. Being able to relax and fall asleep at night is another good stress management skill. You seem to keep your stress under control. Kudos!
12. No. If you are “lost” without your watch, this could be a sign of a controlling personality. It might do you good to forget your watch on the weekends, and just be a free spirit once in a while.
Marla Sloane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved ©2005
About The Author
Marla Sloane Ph.D., is a successful author and speaker. Her Positive Affirmations subscribers have reached world-wide proportions, and her book, The Masks We Wear and How to Live Without Them is at the heart of her teleclasses; From Ordinary to Extraordinary … Unmask Your Potential; teaching individuals how to remove limiting labels. Marla has also produced, Trilogy of Meditations, for your Mind, Body, and Spirit, which is distributed nationwide, and in Europe.
You can contact Marla at: Marla@marlasloane.com
You can visit her web site at: www.marlasloane.com
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Take this quiz and see how you rate on your stress level!
1. I make time for myself every day.
2. I have a tendency to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. I say “no” without feeling guilty.
4. I get impatient quickly with delays or changes.
5. While waiting for the elevator, I press the button more than once.
6. I am able to relax and unwind easily at the end of the day.
7. I laugh everyday.
8. I feel guilty when I just do nothing.
9. I feel “beaten up” sometimes at the end of the day.
10. I get disappointed in others often.
11. I have a hard time falling asleep at night.
12. I often forget to wear my watch.
RESULTS:
If you answered YES to these questions.
1. Yes. You are creating an environment where you can release stress and stay in balance. Keep up the good work!
2. Yes. You are doing too much, and are spreading yourself too thin. It would be a good idea to stay responsible for your work load, and revaluate why you are willing to take on other people’s responsibilities.
3. Yes. If you can say no and be okay with that; you are doing much better than most. By saying no, and not feeling guilty, you are setting your boundaries. You are also eliminating added stress. Kudos for you!
4. Yes. Becoming impatient and irritable quickly is a big sign that you are feeling a large amount of stress. When you are under stress, you react more rapidly than if you were relaxed. Take note of this, and observe how you react the next time you are faced with an unexpected setback or change.
5. Yes. If you push the elevator button more than once, chances are you are a type-A personality. You could have a tendency to live you life in a rushed and stressful way. Slow down…remember pushing the button more than once isn’t going to make the elevator go any faster. You have to learn to let go and chill.
6. Yes. If you can relax and unwind at the end of the day, you are dealing with stress management in a great way. Being able to relax is a sign that you are not bringing your work home with you, and you are putting your priorities in order. This is GREAT!
7. Yes. Laughter is one the best ways to release stress, and staying in balance. Finding laugher in the day is an excellent stress buster!
8. Yes. Feeling guilty when you are doing nothing is an indicator that you are living a lifestyle that is rushed, hurried, and stressful. Break yourself of that habit fast, and make it a priority to do nothing, and feel good about it. Your health depends on it!
9. Yes. Feeling “beaten up” at the end of the day means you are working way too hard. You can lighten up your work load, delegate your work, or get better organized to eliminate that feeling of heaviness.
10. Yes. When you are easily disappointed in others this means that you are expecting too much from the wrong people. You are living in stress! Chances are you are doing too much for others too. Set your boundaries, and choose who you trust wisely.
11. Yes. Insomnia is a side effect of stress, Your mind is racing because it is conditioned to be working 24/7. It’s time to learn how to relax, set your boundaries, and keep your life in balance.
12. Yes. If you can get through the day without your watch, you have conquered the need to control your time. You can manage your time well.
If you answered NO to these questions:
1. No. You are in a rut where you are feeling stressed, and will soon be burned out. Make it a priority to take time out for yourself even if it is only 10 minutes a day.
2. No. You are not taking more responsibility than you should. This is great! Keep up the good work. You know your boundaries.
3. No. Saying no means setting your boundaries and enforcing them. This eliminates added stress. Start practicing saying no and sticking to it. Your self respect depends on it!
4. No. Not reacting to sudden chances and setbacks are a sign of good stress management. Problem solving and solutions are a much better choice!
5. No. If you press the elevator button only once, chances are you have learned to be patient, and can manage your stress well. Excellent!
6. No. If you are having difficulties relaxing and unwinding, you are living a stressful life. It is time to learn how to relax and let go. You must find a balance in your life, or else you will be on the road to “burn out.”
7. No. Laughter is the best medicine for everything. If you aren’t finding enough humor and laughter in your life, then you are out of balance. Make it a priority to find things that bring you joy on a regular basis.
8. No. Doing nothing is a great stress buster. If you can just do nothing and enjoy it, you have mastered the stress demons.
9. No. If you don’t have that “beaten up” feeling at the end of your day this is great! You have learned how to successful manage your stress, and not hold it internally. Excellent!
10. No. This is another sign of excellent stress management skills. You are accurately seeing other people’s strengths and weaknesses, and perceiving that appropriately.
11. No. Being able to relax and fall asleep at night is another good stress management skill. You seem to keep your stress under control. Kudos!
12. No. If you are “lost” without your watch, this could be a sign of a controlling personality. It might do you good to forget your watch on the weekends, and just be a free spirit once in a while.
Marla Sloane, Ph.D. All Rights Reserved ©2005
About The Author
Marla Sloane Ph.D., is a successful author and speaker. Her Positive Affirmations subscribers have reached world-wide proportions, and her book, The Masks We Wear and How to Live Without Them is at the heart of her teleclasses; From Ordinary to Extraordinary … Unmask Your Potential; teaching individuals how to remove limiting labels. Marla has also produced, Trilogy of Meditations, for your Mind, Body, and Spirit, which is distributed nationwide, and in Europe.
You can contact Marla at: Marla@marlasloane.com
You can visit her web site at: www.marlasloane.com
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